Just Like Mama

She wants to be just like Mama.

She dabs on perfume

and purses her lips to receive fresh coat

just like Mama.

She dreams of carrying a purse full of wonders

and strutting in heels higher than the moon.

She tosses her hair and holds chubby fists to her hips

and wags her finger at her dolls,

exerting her own measure of control over her smaller domain.

She will grow up to fear failure,

hold her tension in her shoulders,

spit angry words under pressure,

just like Mama.

And when she has daughters of her own,

they will dream of stepping into her dress shoes,

growing up to be

just like Mama.

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Some things we pass on to the next generation are so beautiful – faith, courage, grace, dignity.  Some can be tossed into the recycling bin, to be lovingly reworked for new use.  Others need to be thrown out completely.  What chains of generational heritage are YOU breaking?

8 comments on “Just Like Mama

  1. I love this poem. Sometimes I just ask my daughter if she wants a hug when she is frustrated; and then she usually comes up with her own solution. Hugs are healing. A hug is worth a million words! ~ Wendy

  2. Caddo Veil says:

    Oh this one is painful, Melody–very sad. I chose not to be a mother, as I fervently did NOT want to be just like Mama. A harsh way to break that generational chain, but it was all I had at the time. God bless you–love, Caddo

    • melodylowes says:

      Harsh is very sufficient if it breaks a cycle – cycles like these are too easily passed down. My family is struggling to break some of our inherited chains, too – and I know that this pleases our Lord very much!

  3. Now this one is very thought provoking. Brilliant. Having children is one thing, but raising them up is another. We ought to be so careful how we speak in-front of them, how we dress, how we deal with life, because a lot of what we do will be picked up by them.

    Later in life, we are sometimes shocked at the way they turn out saying ‘ I don’t know where they got that from’. The answer being: from us.
    Real nice post Melody.

    • melodylowes says:

      Thank you! Yes – I’m afraid we don’t have to look very far to see what the tree has passed on to the apple. If we could deal honestly with our own baggage, we would be free to NOT pass it on to our children. Much easier said than done, I fear. But there is hope to break some of the chains of the past!

  4. adaisygarden says:

    The older I get, and the more I see my children “grow up” (my youngest just got married)… the more I realize that one of the keys to parenting is consistency… in loving them, teaching them, correcting them (in a very loving way), blessing them with words of affirmation, and so on. I was very blessed to have wonderful parents and again, the older I get, the more I see how wise they really were (even when I thought as a kid that they “just didn’t understand!”).

    • melodylowes says:

      None of is is perfect – and ‘love covers a multitude of sins’ – as you say, consistency in offering love and support are so crucial. I’m glad that you had a loving and supportive beginning – it contributed to your ability and freedom to love your children well. A true blessing indeed!

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